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I had zero relations in high school. In fact from all my friends I was the last to kiss, but the first to have sex -same night.

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The Flash said:
I've got a question for you guys. Considering I had been telling "that girl" every single detail of my feelings and my mood changes, should I..

A ) Spill Out : Tell her that I'm over her immediately ?
B ) Take the Time : Wait and tell her after a while ?
C ) Play It Cool : Never tell her and just act normally ?
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I'm leaning towards A, which is the least logical one, no surprises here. :p
 
Trying to convince someone that you don't have feelings for them anymore sounds too much like you actually do still have feelings for them, If you know what I mean...

Just lay low for a while, what does it matter if she still thinks you do or don't. But maybe she would be glad to know? You know her best ;)
 
It won't be trying to convince her, believe me. It would just be setting things straight.

The reason why I want to tell her instantly is that there's a fair amount of chance of being close friends, once destruct by my feelings for her. It could work.
 
There is a chance that it would just be odd though. I mean, Maybe she would just wonder why you needed to tell her that. If she doesn't have the same feelings for you as you did her....It would just be like "Oh, ok?". As far as I can tell the only reason to tell her would be entirely for your own sake and do you really need that to feel that you can properly move on?

I'd still say you should just lay low, the distance between you will come naturally and you can just act as friends around her.
 
Exactly. It's someone who's cheating on his girlfriend. Ok. You did it. Be a man not to tell it. Keep it in your self, carry that weight don't put in on the other's shoulders
 
Damn without the level of indecisiveness I have right now, waiting will be the way to go intentionally or unintentionally. :p

The reasons why I'm defending A :

- We're friends and she considers me a great person, says she loves having me in her life but that we can't be close friends because of the way I feel and that she'd never respond to me in a "close friendship way" with those feelings. Now that they're gone, you know..
- I'm entirely certain she'll be happy to hear that I moved on. It wouldn't be like "Oh, ok" just because I've explained and told her everything I've felt. It's kind of a big deal to end this.
- I don't need to explain this to move on. I'm free already but I want to set her free, too. I know she cares about me and doesn't want to hurt me, if I tell her that it's all gone, she wouldn't have to think a lot when we're interacting with each other. Just like it was for me.

But like I said, B and C also make sense.
 
Why would I scare her, that's what I'm asking. I think I couldn't make my point certain : She likes me as a person, we're friends no matter what and the only reason we're not close friends is because we both think too much when we interact with each other. I don't want to hurt her, and vice versa and that's why we're in this deep mess.

So choosing A wouldn't be a move just for me, in fact, it would be a move for her.

I'd like to be close friends with her (because she's awesome) and I now don't give a damn about dating her. I don't love her anymore.
 
Flash, the best thing to do is to date someone else - show (don't tell) her, and yourself at the same time.
 
I may have read the post wrong so disregard what i said about scaring her. :lol: Well if your friendship is that deep then maybe there won't be an issue?
 
mckindog said:
Flash, the best thing to do is to date someone else - show (don't tell) her, and yourself at the same time.
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Again I need to explain. My question has nothing to do with my dating life and moving on. I moved on and I have no doubt about it. It's about friendship. I want to pick the best way to get into pure friendship.
 
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