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Never been to an airshow -- I've seen too many videos of planes crashing into the crowd. Saw my own airshow on Friday though -- the Space Shuttle Endeavour, which is being mothballed in LA, was flown right past my office window. Very cool -- I'd never seen anything that big flying that low before. The plane that was carrying the shuttle was almost as impressive. There were two fighter jets escorting the thing, and fighter jets aren't small, yet they looked like gnats next to an elephant in the sky.
 
Well, my dad and I actually haven't bought tickets for tomorrow night's Rush show. We'll go as long as things aren't too crazy around here and just buy tickets from a scalper. We were able to get a really good deal for the The Moody Blues because we bought some close to showtime and the seller had to get rid of them.
 
I've got one good and one bad news. Good news is that I've finally done it. It went casual, it turned into a casual chat after a while, actually. Took 45 minutes, the whole class. The bad news is, the result was rejection.

Huge relief and maybe another good news is that we're still friends as normal.
 
Shit. Don't know what to say. It'll take some time to get over it, I guess but it's better this way.
Hope you'll still be friends, although my experience shows that this is rarely possible once the topic of feelings has emerged.
 
The Flash said:
I've got one good and one bad news. Good news is that I've finally done it. It went casual, it turned into a casual chat after a while, actually. Took 45 minutes, the whole class. The bad news is, the result was rejection.

Huge relief and maybe another good news is that we're still friends as normal.
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Good job stepping up. Next step is moving on.
 
@Albie, always up for another 666 reference!!

@Flash, maybe hard to believe right now, but if she isn't 'in' to you, then she isn't the one. I firmly believe that, and I say that from a position of experience. Find the girl that really digs you and you'll be good to go! Good luck, and way to go for getting it out there!!!
 
I'll give it time since she's not an adult but just a 16 year old girl.

Guys I'm not moving on. Because there's no moving on, this day could be the greatest day in my life. I'm so happy that I finally told her what I feel. It was casual as hell. There was no plans, no thoughts involved, I just said what I wanted to say.

I simply went straight to her and started to talk. No second thoughts. The moments in the beginning were glorious. I didn't do anything that wasn't a part of myself. I had a hard time starting to talk (going to her wasn't problem but starting to say that I liked her was) but I'm glad I had because the curious looks she threw at me were amazing. (Ah, how beautiful is she) The talk itself was really fun. I was smiling the whole time and so was she. There was no tension, stress or pain involved. It was all happiness and I explained everything without screwing it up.

She thanked me for doing it face-to-face, she was going to reject me (started with a but after thanking me) but I didn't let her do so, because I wasn't expecting any good answer anyway. I've really send my message to her.

The first 20 minutes of conversation were about the thing you know and the rest was about career issues (our career plans are exactly the same) and also political/economic issues.

The rest of the day went same as usual anyway.

So basically, I mixed up my thoughts about this thing with you guys' thoughts, didn't tell her everything that would freak her out but also didn't act like it was nothing for me and explained I wanted to explain. I knew she wasn't going to freak out anyhow, she's a good person and a really good friend. (her great personality is the reason I fell in love with her anyway, her looks matter only in liking period)

What a great experience it was. And I actually have more hopes that we'll end up together than before after having this conversation. It was far far more than just an "asking out".

I'm in the point of trying to be together with her by looking at myself but letting it go if it doesn't happen since it would be her loss. Best point possible for now, I believe.

Ahh I wish I could have it happen once again, it was great.
 
At this point the best thing you can do is move on, mate. Even though your friendship may be stronger now, that might not last. Also, the best thing for her is to see that you are capable of forming and having good relationships. So relax, be friends, go for some other girls, and you never know what'll happen with this chick in the summer, or next year. But stop focussing on her for awhile, okay?
 
LooseCannon said:
At this point the best thing you can do is move on, mate. Even though your friendship may be stronger now, that might not last. Also, the best thing for her is to see that you are capable of forming and having good relationships. So relax, be friends, go for some other girls, and you never know what'll happen with this chick in the summer, or next year. But stop focussing on her for awhile, okay?
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I very much doubt that I'll go for other girls. I've tried everything to move on before. I gave up a year ago or so.

This girl or no girls at all. And I'm absolutely fine with that. But don't worry, I'm far from being a guy that losts his mind for a girl even though I love her so much.
 
Dude, you're 16. Trust me, I remember. She was pretty, smart, she had huge...tracts of land (bonus points to anyone who gets the reference). If you want this girl, the best thing you can do to get her is to relax, back off a tiny bit, and date some other ladies. If you keep pining over her, it's probably never gonna work out.
 
LooseCannon said:
Dude, you're 16. Trust me, I remember. She was pretty, smart, she had huge...tracts of land (bonus points to anyone who gets the reference). If you want this girl, the best thing you can do to get her is to relax, back off a tiny bit, and date some other ladies. If you keep pining over her, it's probably never gonna work out.
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That's the point, I'm not pining over her. I'm not doing anything.

I'm an awesome guy and I know it. I'll work on being more social, I'll work on my looks, and see if it works. If not, I don't give a damn.
 
Remember Slovotsky's Law:
“Whatever you want too much you can't have, so when you really want something, try to want it a little less.”
 
Yes, that is why "not giving a damn" part is on force from now on. :bigsmile:

But I sure as hell am not dating other girls. No, no, no.
 
The Flash said:
But I sure as hell am not yet dating other girls.
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Fixed. :) Don't worry man, you're still very young.
I admire you for the step you took. At that age I was too shitscared to show my feelings to a girl I had a crush on
(I was a nerd mostly engaged with other male nerds ;-).
 
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