❤ Dating Advice For MaidenFans Thread ❤

[____no5]

Most companies frown upon fraternizing IF it's a supervisor with an employee.

And rightfully so.
But in the case of NP and any female co-human the problem is deeper than that.
Whatever she does to show she likes him he will always find a way to escape. Supervisor, peer, slave, master no matter what he will find an excuse not to act and stay alone.

Any rules about fraternizing are irrelevant, as even if there were rules obliging coworkers to fraternizing, he would find a way to bend them.

 

[Jer]

Whatever she does to show she likes him he will always find a way to escape.

But what if he spotted her in the cafeteria eating a pizza with egg on it while listening to super shitty extreme metal…?

 

[____no5]

He would show some interest of course, talked to her, become friends with her and then she will invited him to her room after a day or two. They would enter, listen to some music and she would ask him to put his hand on her lap but he wouldn't do anything as he would desperately seek for a clear sign before he attacks.
And we all know that hand on lap is dirty.

 

[Diesel 11]

The Night Prowler Show has been filmed in front of a live studio audience.

 

[Night Prowler]

There are multiple couples in the company already, and I'm pretty sure that my boss would congratulate me rather than oppose me dating a peer because he's a pervert. I would never risk telling him though, and since we work from home, I wouldn't worry about him finding out unless someone snitched.

But I'm getting ahead of myself. I have to admit no5 is right though... Unless she gave me clear signs, I would never approach her that way as I don't want to be a creepy boss.

Also I'm just bored and I haven't met someone new that I liked in a few months. It'll pass.

 

[LooseCannon]

Do not date someone who works for you, period, full stop.

 

[____no5]

But I'm getting ahead of myself. I have to admit no5 is right though... Unless she gave me clear signs, I would never approach her that way as I don't want to be a creepy boss.

Not just boss, you don't want to be creepy, period. Except your definition of creepy is another man's restrained. And that of "clear signs", is borderline porno territory.

Do not date someone who works for you, period, full stop.

I know somebody who was selling a profile of renaissance man and I used to have good opinion of him, except that once he lost his managerial position, I've learnt that if a female co-worker didn't have sex with him, goodbye promotion. Lesson learnt: never judge a person from his words, actions talk louder.

 

[Jer]

Do not date someone who works for you, period, full stop.

Correct. But if she makes it clear to him that she wants to date (and he didn't do anything forward or untoward while her boss), it's OK to request an org chart change to pave the way for it.

Many moons ago I was my future wife's boss for a while. An unexpected org chart change removed that boss/employee relationship and we started dating. Then another org chart change was proposed that would have made me her boss again, so we disclosed our relationship and they just put her under someone else instead. No big deal.

 

[Onhell]

Do not date someone who works for you, period, full stop.

This. Always.

 

[Siddharth]

Back in 2019 I met a very beautiful girl during my classes. On one hand, there is attraction towards opposite sex (which is natural) and on the other, you are really pulled by someone by heart and genuinely like them. At first I thought it could be the case of former but being elated to this day, I personally believe it is more than just attraction. Honestly, I never have had such strong feelings for anyone.

When we first looked at each other, we kept looking curiously as if somehow related to each other. Our classes went on for about eight months and the same thing continued on for just that long. I tried to talk. One day even sat next to her. I did not talk. A while later she asked my subject and smiled. I was struck right there. Two more days, I was sitting next to her. Didn't talk much, felt a bit nervous. All I did was just once glance at her notebook to know her name (which was written on it). Since it was one of the last benches, I felt underwhelming there and went back to my original seat, next to front row. A few weeks later, she also started sitting at one of the first rows. All we did was just stare at each other. During the last month, it had pretty much become a means of communication between us (without conveying anything).

Almost one and a half year ago, I found her IDs on two-three social media platforms. I sent messages to her but no reply. To be fair, I don't mind it as even I would have done the same in a similar situation. Since you my friends are the ones with experience here, what is your say on it?

 

[Onhell]

Almost one and a half year ago, I found her IDs on two-three social media platforms. I sent messages to her but no reply. To be fair, I don't mind it as even I would have done the same in a similar situation. Since you my friends are the ones with experience here, what is your say on it?

99.9% No reply IS a reply. If you're lucky and see her in person again, try and strike up a conversation and see how it goes. I know people, myself included, that SUCK at digital contact, like send a message, reply 4 months later. But normal people are pretty good about it so I'd say if you get the chance to see her again roll the dice.

 

[Onhell]

Correct. But if she makes it clear to him that she wants to date (and he didn't do anything forward or untoward while her boss), it's OK to request an org chart change to pave the way for it.

1. When I was younger the little guy did most of the thinking and yeah, I'd think org chart change request. Now, I'm like, nah, my benefits, peace of mind and job are more important than to worry about work drama.

... they just put her under someone else instead. No big deal.

2. Dude... phrasing!

 

[LooseCannon]

Correct. But if she makes it clear to him that she wants to date (and he didn't do anything forward or untoward while her boss), it's OK to request an org chart change to pave the way for it.

Many moons ago I was my future wife's boss for a while. An unexpected org chart change removed that boss/employee relationship and we started dating. Then another org chart change was proposed that would have made me her boss again, so we disclosed our relationship and they just put her under someone else instead. No big deal.

I think in the modern work environment even this would be suspect; it still happens, but depending on where you are in the company's structure. It also assumes your employer has an option for re-orging to make it possible. I think the situation you describe would be fine in my company as well, but asking for an org change to begin dating is gonna be looked on suspect here, anyway.

 

[Perun]

New coworker is super cute.

The downside is that I'm the one who hired her and I'm her boss.

Dammit.

Stop. Crushing. On. Co-workers.

 

[Night Prowler]

Stop. Crushing. On. Co-workers.

 

[mtmccox]

Stop. Crushing. On. Co-workers.

Can I on a receptionist in the downstairs lobby? Technically not the same employer. But she cute and I think smiles at me more than usual.

 

[Siddharth]

99.9% No reply IS a reply. If you're lucky and see her in person again, try and strike up a conversation and see how it goes. I know people, myself included, that SUCK at digital contact, like send a message, reply 4 months later. But normal people are pretty good about it so I'd say if you get the chance to see her again roll the dice.

Thanks big bro!

 

[____no5]

I don't think I ever did anything with a co-worker. Not even remotely. Maybe I liked one or two; liked, no proper crush. On the other side there were a few spicy stories with clients. Ranging anywhere from romantic comedy to, to psychological drama, to prank pack, to X rated.

 

[Night Prowler]

As most of you who were here in 2019 know, I did have something with a co-worker. We told everyone in the office, and there were no issues there apart from some light teasing, but in retrospect, it was a bad idea telling them because it would've been way more fun if no one knew. Also, I got fired in a pretty unceremonious way and later she dumped me because she didn't wanna associate with me due to the way that I left.

I learn from my mistakes, so the second time around I'd do things differently.

 

[Perun]

Back in 2019 I met a very beautiful girl during my classes. On one hand, there is attraction towards opposite sex (which is natural) and on the other, you are really pulled by someone by heart and genuinely like them. At first I thought it could be the case of former but being elated to this day, I personally believe it is more than just attraction. Honestly, I never have had such strong feelings for anyone.

When we first looked at each other, we kept looking curiously as if somehow related to each other. Our classes went on for about eight months and the same thing continued on for just that long. I tried to talk. One day even sat next to her. I did not talk. A while later she asked my subject and smiled. I was struck right there. Two more days, I was sitting next to her. Didn't talk much, felt a bit nervous. All I did was just once glance at her notebook to know her name (which was written on it). Since it was one of the last benches, I felt underwhelming there and went back to my original seat, next to front row. A few weeks later, she also started sitting at one of the first rows. All we did was just stare at each other. During the last month, it had pretty much become a means of communication between us (without conveying anything).

Almost one and a half year ago, I found her IDs on two-three social media platforms. I sent messages to her but no reply. To be fair, I don't mind it as even I would have done the same in a similar situation. Since you my friends are the ones with experience here, what is your say on it?

She might have been trying to stare you down to make you stop staring at her all the time because she was too shy or polite to stop telling you to do so.