❤ Dating Advice For MaidenFans Thread ❤

Saapanael said:
I hate that it’s considered weird to strike up conversations with strangers. I hate how reserved people are. I constantly try to find contact with people on public transport but some take you for a creep when you look at them. I kinda want to move to a place where interactions between strangers are more common.
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Dude you want to seek connections in a society where random connections are obviously a bit haram. Spend some time, try your luck elsewhere. If I were that reserved, as the people you try to interact with, my psyche would explode in a place like Split.
 
Ariana said:
The above is pretty much true for my culture too, not surprisingly.
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Going a bit off topic, but also the pedo-scare, we don't want it. I like children and will goof (make faces or smile at the overly cute kid) remotely with them. People here do not see that kind of contact as scary, especially if you're about the same age as the parent, your kids might be friends someday.
 
The Flash said:
Is Tinder huge in Finland?
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I haven't been dating for a long time, but from what I know, it's quite popular. I'm not sure how young people court these days, but for people closer to my age (30s - 40s), the most popular way of meeting a partner (or short-term company) is in bars, drunk. Another possibility is to try and meet people in hobbies or have a busy social life, and hope you'll meet someone you like there.

But there are problems to all of these. I've heard a lot of negative stuff about Tinder, and almost nothing positive. Going to bars sucks if you don't drink, and also some types of people cannot be found in bars (for example people who like being at home). And if meeting people in hobbies and stuff, you have to be prepared to wait, or then have a very busy social life where people change all the time, or new hobbies added regularly. :)
 
The hobby thing here also applies, specially dances like salsa. For the less dancy people, mountaineering. Everyone is in good health after a good climb and the atmosphere at the lodge can be really warming :)
 
Zare said:
A solo player eyeing out women in a bar will be deemed as freak 99% of the time. The best you can do is go out with your friends, have fun on your own and if you start something non-verbal with a nice girl you try to merge squads, introduce everyone, etc. The real courtship is still alive and kicking here, don't be aggressive, don't set out to do anything on the night of first contact.
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It's funny how different cultures are. My experiences go back a decade or so, but if a solo guy approached a lady in a bar here, it was totally all right, as long as the guy was not extremely drunk. And I don't think any Finnish men knew the meaning of the words "real courtship". I didn't try this myself, but if a man and a woman met in a bar, it was the norm to sleep together right away. :)
 
I know a lot of people take a dog so that they can make new friends in dog parks and the like. Maybe it could be an idea.
 
Zare said:
The hobby thing here also applies, specially dances like salsa. For the less dancy people, mountaineering. Everyone is in good health after a good climb and the atmosphere at the lodge can be really warming :)
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Good, healthy options! If one doesn't find a partner, one is at least in better condition, and a better dancer! In Finland all you get is a drinking problem. :confused:
 
Zare said:
If I were that reserved, as the people you try to interact with, my psyche would explode in a place like Split.
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You're from Split? I once visited there in the summertime. I'm very comfortable in my body, I have no body issues, but I have to say that when I saw all those tall, slim, young ladies in their extremely skimpy, fashionable clothes, for the first time in my life I did feel a bit uncomfortable, plump and frumpy in my sweaty old summer dresses. :bigsmile:
 
Lamia020281 said:
but if a solo guy approached a lady in a bar here
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Just to make sure, I'm not saying separating yourself from your bunch and approaching a lady is not normal, because it completely is. Just don't be seen as a solo hunter, that's out exclusively to get something.

Also Ariana if anyone here gets the alpha-hunter adjective stamped to them, it's no man it is a cute little dog :)
 
Lamia020281 said:
You're from Split? I once visited there in the summertime. I'm very comfortable in my body, I have no body issues, but I have to say that when I saw all those tall, slim, young ladies in their extremely skimpy, fashionable clothes, for the first time in my life I did feel a bit uncomfortable, plump and frumpy in my sweaty old summer dresses. :bigsmile:
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Yes. The Riva, the promenade, is the biggest fashion show on Earth. We like to dress out and show ourselves, that's hardly a secret, I guess that's our Italian side.

But the accent people have on the looks side is not healthy. IMHO
 
Offtopic Lamia but I would like to hear your complete experience with my city so if you can find time and appropriate topic, please write a word or two :)
 
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