Any gig I go to, I snap a quick photo of the stage and wotnot from my place in the crowd, then switch my phone off for the entire show.
You know that one person in the crowd that isn't a zombie? The one who looks like he actually wants to be there? That's me, that is
The only band I've ever seen on par with Maiden is Florence and the Machine. Amazing band, and amazing front woman. Not only a great singer and songwriter, but a fantastic front woman.
On the tour for their third record at Sheffield Arena, there was a narrow walkway made from those iron railings barriers, from the stage and out to the mixing desk, just a thin strip the crowd wasn't allowed into. Towards the end of the non-encore set, Florence took her blouse off and ran around the whole lap, singing her heart out, barefoot in her bra, waving her top at the audience. She came right around the mixing desk singing to us up in the cheap seats at the back, and everyone in the wings at both sides.
Too many bands, even huge ones, are so dissociated from the crowd and the experience itself. Too many bands are too focused on sounding just like the record with backing tracks, tapes and looking "cool" on stage. Never moving from their mark, not mixing up their playing, trying to do solos note for note instead of capturing the general feel and being in the moment. In short, too many acts are obsessed with themselves instead of being with the crowd in that moment.
So it's fine to ask the fans to be there, but the band need to be too. You're not going to church. You're not talking to god. You're a fan of them and their music, and the interaction goes both ways.
That's why I love acts like Maiden and F+TM live. They use the crowd as part of their experience, and they're there to enjoy it together, all as one, with both parties pulling their weight.