Mental Health Thread

Do you fear death, dying, etc.?

  • Yes

    Votes: 12 21.8%

  • No

    Votes: 23 41.8%

  • Trying my best to not think about it

    Votes: 16 29.1%

  • Never really thought about it and I'm unable to come up with an answer on a spot

    Votes: 4 7.3%
  • Total voters
    55
Onhell said:
As for the kiddo. DO NOT. EVER. Blame yourself. You guys are doing the best you can with what you got. Can't give 100% right now? That's valid, do it when you can. My niece is a huracane, and her parents are on it 24/7. So maybe a little less screen time will help, maybe it won't. Allow yourself to be human, but don't add guilt on top of the stress. This is temporary.
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This! I know from your previous posts you´re a caring father @Ascendingthethrone !
 
Onhell said:
I can relate to the stress of the selling and buying of the house. We've been getting deliveries from our storage unit abroad and the house looks like a bomb went off. Putting everything away, separating what needs selling, giving away and keeping is all consuming. However, the only way is through, it is a process that has a beginning and an end. Keep the eye on the prize. Won't make the stress disappear, but it will be more tolerable.

As for the kiddo. DO NOT. EVER. Blame yourself. You guys are doing the best you can with what you got. Can't give 100% right now? That's valid, do it when you can. My niece is a huracane, and her parents are on it 24/7. So maybe a little less screen time will help, maybe it won't. Allow yourself to be human, but don't add guilt on top of the stress. This is temporary.
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Thanks @Onhell. This post perked me up! The meeting was not as bad as I thought it could be. They just want to support her more.

And thank you @MindRuler for the kind words!
 
Ascendingthethrone said:
I’m fed up at the moment. We are in the process of selling and buying a house which is stressful in itself. We also have a meeting with my daughter’s nursery today. It is a follow up from earlier in the year, but I think that they will try diagnose her with some form of SEND. She is a fidget and is not great at sitting still. I feel that it is our fault is some ways. We have been lazy parents recently with regarding play and screen time. Screens have been used as a pacifier because we have been so busy with work and the house selling. I know that is not an excuse, but there it is. And to top it all off, this stress has been wrecking havoc on my stomach.

I just feel so deflated. We are off work for the summer and the stress of everything is worse than term time.
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So she may have ADHD: that's not actually a catastrophe, you know ... Letting her sit in front of the screen a bit more than you think you should have didn't cause it - it's part of who she is. She may find some things a bit more difficult but she'll also have abilities that the others don't have.
 
Starting from this day I want to cope with 2 addictions of mine: sugar and smartphone use.
I eat way too much cookies and candies, the latter even like binging. I drink energy drinks and soda too and I´ll try to switch them from now on for herbal tea and plain water. The fact that the rest of my diet contains an awful amount of sugar makes it even more important to start leaving the extra's out for a while. Not saying I won´t ever eat a cookie again but this first weeks I want to diminish it drastically.

The smartphone use is another thing. From morning to night I´m almost on that damn thing. What'sApp, maidenfans forum, album review sites, but the biggest problem is YouTube where I lose track of time and I´m really ashamed to say it but it can be like 2 hours of watching video's. Comic collector vlogs, podcasts, music channels with old songs, new stuff,...

It's getting out of hand and I suffer from headaches and bad temper in the morning. So yes this is a mental health issue I kindly like to solve.

This means I won´t be participating on the forum as much as in the past but try to visit this nice place a little less than before. I try to listen to my own music collection instead of wandering around on YT and maybe pick up some old hobbies I neglected abit.
 
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Good luck! :applause: Both are surely something many of us can relate to. I managed to get over to sparkling water and then regular water to kick the worst sugar cravings, plus some simple work out. It is easy to fall back of course, it is not a easy task. And screen addiction sucks. Reading Stolen Focus by Johann Hari and seeing the documentary Social dilemma helped me to take action to cut quite a lot of screen time, found lot of good tricks from there.
 
I'm a little annoyed that people rarely consider others. I'm an introvert, and I like everything planned and without surprises. This weekend, for the first time in months I can be home alone, and I was happy because I really need these days to myself to relax. What a coincidence that an hour ago, my family announced they were coming to our town for the weekend.

Everyone is shocked that I don't want to hang out and just want to be alone. Just like every time I've been in this situation for 38 years.

After our miscarriage last year and the stress of work, I'm really feeling the need to relax on my own and do what I enjoy instead of constantly stressing out about someone wanting to see me, coming over, or being offended because we haven't visited. And just to be clear, in the last month, we've spent three out of four weekends with family.
 
Batman said:
I'm a little annoyed that people rarely consider others. I'm an introvert, and I like everything planned and without surprises. This weekend, for the first time in months I can be home alone, and I was happy because I really need these days to myself to relax. What a coincidence that an hour ago, my family announced they were coming to our town for the weekend.

Everyone is shocked that I don't want to hang out and just want to be alone. Just like every time I've been in this situation for 38 years.

After our miscarriage last year and the stress of work, I'm really feeling the need to relax on my own and do what I enjoy instead of constantly stressing out about someone wanting to see me, coming over, or being offended because we haven't visited. And just to be clear, in the last month, we've spent three out of four weekends with family.
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That sucks. And you are entitled to your own space. Despite popular opinion, you do not need to host family at a whim.
Though, if you want to avoid the shocked picachu face and outrage the next time you find yourself in a similar situation, you could just tell them that you are ill and down with a fever instead and hopefully avoid the drama that takes a further toll on you.
 
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You're right. Problem is that I hate telling lies, which is amazing for some, since I work in marketing. Either way - this is something I need to fix, life is too short to be forced to do things that I don't like.
 
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Time, it is as we all know something you can`t slow down but it seems to race on so fast these days. We`ve just come back from what will be our final holiday as a family of 4 as my kids are now 18 & 21 , so no not kids anymore.
We have been to this same holiday destination 6 times as a family over 17 years ,that time frame seems to have flown by as each year you celebrate the kids achievements and them reaching a goal in School or whatever. You often seem to forget your life is flying by too , as i pointed out to my Wife before we left the holiday i mentioned in ,17 years from now the time we have been coming here i will be 71, if all is well and i`m still here, fit ,sound of mind, and that scares me a bit to be honest.
Seeing me Parents get old and life become more difficult for them only adds to it i think and that is why i am so determined to enjoy everything i can while i`m still going physically and mentally.
This is exactly my thought process on seeing Maiden live (amongst other things) and forgiving the issues involved with them in order to enjoy life and celebrate something special that has been with me for over 4 decades. Singing along to such special songs from 40 years ago this year made me feel very much young and alive.

I don`t know if anyone feels the same concerns over time passing by and age creeping up but nevertheless thanks for reading and , up the irons in 2026 hopefully.
 
Fozzie said:
I don`t know if anyone feels the same concerns over time passing by and age creeping up but nevertheless thanks for reading and , up the irons in 2026 hopefully.
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Oh man, it haunts me daily. I've been in a really weird place since the summer. Not only did I have a potential romance flame out in style, but I've been drowning in nostalgia and memories. I am finally moved in with my mom and helping her out basically being a personal assistant. We started getting shipments from the stuff we had in storage back in the States. In said boxes? my DIGITAL camera, which still works, both my camcorders, which don't work, but can likely get fixed. Movies, in Betamax, VHS and DVDs. Photo albums, school yearbooks, the rest of my CD collection and books... a TON of books. Among them, the Encyclopedia Britannica from the mid 70's my brother and I used for school projects before the internet. Speaking of my computers, a bunch of floppy disks with my school projects going back to high school and my original copies of Diablo, StarCraft, Brood Wars and WarCraft II.

Also, my ex-fiancee's dog tags she gave me before going overseas.... Soooo...... my head has been spinning with the wave of memories and emotions, good and bad, being trudged up by all these artifacts. Even a bigger trip is watching my 6 year old niece interact with all of this. Especially the books my brother and I grew up with and are now hers.

Even with the current ups and downs I feel.... satisfied and proud with my current life and decisions. I am very fortunate to have a solid support group of family and friends, a job I enjoy and am appreciated at, a good group of coworkers, etc. So excuse me while I go cuddle with my very first teddy bear, which was also in said boxes and is 40 years old.
 
Onhell said:
In said boxes? my DIGITAL camera, which still works, both my camcorders, which don't work, but can likely get fixed. Movies, in Betamax, VHS and DVDs. Photo albums, school yearbooks, the rest of my CD collection and books... a TON of books. Among them, the Encyclopedia Britannica from the mid 70's my brother and I used for school projects before the internet. Speaking of my computers, a bunch of floppy disks with my school projects going back to high school and my original copies of Diablo, StarCraft, Brood Wars and WarCraft II.
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I have found myself looking at quite a few old things i own and quite enjoying heading back to days gone past.I enjoy watching the endless YouTube video`s showing programs and tv adverts from my youth too, quite a nice bit of escapism.
 
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