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Brigantium said:
If they leave you alone, sounds fine!
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Absolutely. We sometimes have trips/leisure time together, play cards or whatever... and help each other out (they are not getting younger and need a help from time to time), but very often we don't even see each other all day long. And we are very good friends. :)
 
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The Flash said:
It's very popular here. Turkish concept of family is a sharp contrast to the Western concept of family anyway, a ton of differences.
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I know a few Turkish fellows who I grew up with that had gigantic fights when they moved out to get their own place around age 20. It seems to be a gigantic difference.

Myself, if I lived with my parents, I'd probably murder them.
 
Moving out when you get married is the norm here. Some university students choose to live on their own and follow that path, some stay with their parents. If you're not going to university, living with your parents until marriage is almost exclusively the norm.
 
In the West, people are very concerned about own space, freedom and privacy. I noticed it is different in Poland where it is more of a patriarchal society. Maybe my parents in law are not that representative but every day there's contact; everyday they want to know what their children do, no matter the age. As if the father stays the boss no matter how old he or his children are. That said, one of their children lives a couple of countries abroad, so that's not that easy either.
 
I just wanted to clarify - it's not as if we truly lived with our parents, we more or less freely share a larger building. Both families participate in paying the necessary expenses and we do not get in each other's way. It's just a closer relationship than most Western families have with their ancestors. :)
 
I moved to Ankara for university with my parents, therefore I continue to live with them. The fact that they're not in that conservative, classic patriarchal family mold is the major reason why, I'm free to do whatever the hell I want, basically. I very much consider myself lucky for the parents that I have.

The contact thing Foro mentioned is true here as well. My grandmother who lives in a different city calls my mother every single day.
 
The Flash said:
Moving out when you get married is the norm here. Some university students choose to live on their own and follow that path, some stay with their parents. If you're not going to university, living with your parents until marriage is almost exclusively the norm.
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Adding to this: The Turkish word for the verb marry is "evlenmek", which means "to get a house" and the word for "married" is "evli", which means "one with a house". Goes to show you how ingrained into our society this norm is.
 
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