I'll try to play with this as the "contrarian" here. No offence intended.
It takes way more to offend me, don't worry.
- Well, your opinion should be based on something (otherwise it's not an opinion, but a whim) and either the thing is cheap and appeals at low instincts and therefore gets mass popularity or it might be actually great and you are wrong. Whether you like it or not is a subjective thing (and completely irrelevant to discussion), whether it's great is not.
I don't agree with you on this sort of semantic. It can be my opinion if I like something or not if I have reasons for it. I can also be of the opinion that I dislike something popular while still appreciating that it has a quality that makes it popular. Likewise, I can deal with the fact that most people dislike what I like. It doesn't change the music for me. People argued in this game that Atlantean Kodex has weirdly tuned guitars and that was a turn-off to them. I can hear what they mean, and I can understand that they don't like it, but I think it sounds great.
@Jer can complain all he likes about the glass-gargling vocals on my favourite black metal albums, and you can all point out to me that the majority of people do not like this type of vocals, and I can say - fine. I still like it. All I ask in return is that you respect it when I dislike something you like. I'm not even asking you to understand why I dislike it, just to respect it. I don't mean to take away from your appreciation of it, I just want to state my opinion.
- Listening to only things we like doesn't really make us grow in any way. Listening to stuff that is genuinely overall perceived as great might actually change us as people. I spend actually quite a lot of time with stuff that I don't even remotely like, in order to better myself and to educate myself, whether it's music, literature, movies...
Why do I need to listen to music for personal growth? I've been arguing this to a lot of people in recent years: In my own personal life, I'm exposed to new things all the time and I need to be open-minded
a lot. And I'm not complaining about that. But I also appreciate a bit of cheese and conservatism for myself, and I find that especially in music. That doesn't mean I'm against listening to and discovering new music, but I also appreciate having my safe space where I know what I like. And that's my thing. If I want to listen to ten epic metal albums in a row all of which are minor variations of the same theme, that's my problem. I know that I'm missing out on music I might enjoy, but that will always be the case, even if I listened to a hundred different albums by a hundred different artists in a hundred different genres.
I find a lot of challenge in my education, my profession, in my reading, even in films and in trying to navigate through my daily life. I'm not saying I don't like challenge in music, but I'm just going to be honest and say I appreciate it when I can control the challenge here. I think I'm entitled to that, because that's my thing and my thing only. Also, I already take a lot of inspiration out of the music I listen to the way it is.
- And it matters because you're on a friggin forum - therefore you desire a certain type of communion with people who belong to your "group" or "tribe". If you didn't care about others, why would you do this to yourself? Or are you just shouting in the open void, for the amusement of yourself?
For one, I've been on this board for 17 years now and I've grown attached to a lot of the people here. Many are old, good friends I've met numerous times. It's part of my social circle. When I first joined this board, I was a lot more like what you described above, looking for personal growth in music, but now that I'm my mid-30s, some of my priorities shifted. They might shift again and maybe by the time I'm 40 I'll only listen to experimental fusion jazz (in that case, please shoot me).
Also, there are a lot of interesting discussions to be had about music and yes, discoveries to be made. Again, I'm not against discovery, but I want to do it at my own pace.