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I don't think you're whining. People need to get things off their chest every once in a while. The truth is, everyone has problems in life, big or small.
 
Yeah, when I start to tell my friends of my problems, they usually start talking about theirs and it usually ends up with them sounding like bloody martyrs compared to me. So I don't even bother anymore.
 
It's almost like a competition on who has the worst problems. I know that all too well. I generally just keep quiet and let everyone else talk.
 
Perun said:
Yeah, when I start to tell my friends of my problems, they usually start talking about theirs and it usually ends up with them sounding like bloody martyrs compared to me. So I don't even bother anymore.
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That's why therapists make a lot of money — when you unburden, they don't burden you back.
 
Moon Child said:
It's almost like a competition on who has the worst problems. I know that all too well. I generally just keep quiet and let everyone else talk.
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Exactly! One of my friends actually even called that recently. When we were done, she asked me (ironically) who has won. Of course, she did because she has all of my problems plus bad health.

mckindog said:
That's why therapists make a lot of money — when you unburden, they don't burden you back.
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Yeah, and I'm still thinking that this is all just a lot of stress that will be over in a bit. I'm not feeling ill in any way, neither psychically nor psycho-somatic. I've always had sleeping problems, they always varied, so right now I'm not getting very much sleep... well, tough luck. Good for me actually, more time to do things.
 
You almost hate to say it but it's definitely true. You sit there and talk about your problems with them then they bring up theirs and you sit there and think "Oh well, I guess I don't have it so bad after all." I'd have to say out of my friends, I'm pretty well off I suppose.
 
Well, Perun, I think you have two ways out.
First - set your priorities in order. For example - you can finish your Master's, get things settled with the studies first. Then try looking for a better-paid job and once that's settled, start focusing on your personal life. Or put them in a different order, but do things one by one because even if you are the pure embodiment of stoicism, you won't last long.
Second - you can say "Fuck all this!"and go on a hiking tour around Africa to have some time off.
 
Well, sometimes other people's problems make me feel better about myself. When I hear what some are going through with their partners or ex-partners, I'm glad not to be in a relationship. And as I said, I am so unbelievably happy to be healthy. I'm overweight, but I'm working on it... other than that, no problems that I know of. Of course, many people have much bigger financial problems than I do. I've got a bit of debt with the bank and probably have my credit shot for the next two years (thanks to my incompetent health insurance agency), but if I'm lucky I'll get a three-year scholarship next year and be all clean when I'm done. I'd rather live off pasta with ketchup for the last week of a month than get a loan that I'd never be able to pay back. It's really nothing out of the ordinary for a student. Still, it gets on your back, especially if it's been going on for a while.
 
Per, the following is meant to be funny, even though I realize the nature of your problems. (Just trying to distract a bit).

I suddenly have a ridiculous idea which might cause you to sleep better. However, you never know in advance how it will turn out because there's the possibility of a risky side effect if you're really going to do this, namely extra stress.

Here it is: Before going to sleep: play Dream Theater.
 
Ariana said:
Well, Perun, I think you have two ways out.
First - set your priorities in order. For example - you can finish your Master's, get things settled with the studies first. Then try looking for a better-paid job and once that's settled, start focusing on your personal life. Or put them in a different order, but do things one by one because even if you are the pure embodiment of stoicism, you won't last long.
Second - you can say "Fuck all this!"and go on a hiking tour around Africa to have some time off.
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If I had the cash, I'd be in for option number two in a heartbeat (although it'd probably be Canada in my case). But option one is the reasonable thing, and what I'm aiming for. I'm trying to get my priorities straight, but it's not always easy. As I said, everything is the most important thing and needs to be done right away, and I only have so much time.
 
Perun said:
Well, sometimes other people's problems make me feel better about myself. When I hear what some are going through with their partners or ex-partners, I'm glad not to be in a relationship. And as I said, I am so unbelievably happy to be healthy. I'm overweight, but I'm working on it... other than that, no problems that I know of. Of course, many people have much bigger financial problems than I do. I've got a bit of debt with the bank and probably have my credit shot for the next two years (thanks to my incompetent health insurance agency), but if I'm lucky I'll get a three-year scholarship next year and be all clean when I'm done. I'd rather live off pasta with ketchup for the last week of a month than get a loan that I'd never be able to pay back. It's really nothing out of the ordinary for a student. Still, it gets on your back, especially if it's been going on for a while.
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That's usually the best way to think about it. What you have going on right now, even though it may not be ideal, it's better off then what other people are going through. All that's important is what works best for you.
 
It may take time to figure out that it's not all of equal importance. It can't be. There are always things that can wait - a week, a month or longer.

What you need is a bit of "whining", a pat or two on your shoulders and a bit of relaxation, even if it's just through sleep. Stress has a way of getting at you all of a sudden.
 
And at least I still know how to get a bit of fun out of things occasionally.

I guess I'll make the best of the day and head for a swim now, as long as they've got the morning tariff. I need to work out anyway. So thanks for listening and for your advice, and I'll log back on later.
 
Ariana said:
What you need is a bit of "whining", a pat or two on your shoulders and a bit of relaxation, even if it's just through sleep. Stress has a way of getting at you all of a sudden.
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Well, occasionally I can still lean back, close my eyes and listen to some Iron Maiden... that's a quantum of solace, so to speak.
 
Twenty lanes. Not much, but I think it's good as a warm-up for the day. No need to exhaust yourself before breakfast.
 
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