This reminded me of a very specific ocassion when I was stood up by not one, not two, but FOUR people in the same night. My coworkers and I, decided to go out to some dive bar and as usual I was 20 minutes early. about 10 minutes AFTER the agreed upon time the text messages and calls start coming in, "Won't be able to make it." One had texted, the other had called, then I get another call, "Who's there?" "Well, seems like just me since (so and so and what's her face) canceled." "Oh... well... then I guess I won't go either." Awkward silence... "Um... I'M here... " More awkward silence... "Yeah, well, thought we were ALL going to hang out, some other time I guess." Oh man I was furious. It wasn't like we hadn't hung out before, we had, several times, so what gives? I got up and left and as I was going home the fourth coworker finally calls, "So sorry I'm calling this late, you guys there?" "Um, NO, so and so and what's her face cancelled and fancy pants decided not to come when I told her the other two bailed. Fuck this!" "Oh wow, yeah, don't blame you for being so angry, well... hope your night gets better."
Things like this used to bother me so much and I used to be the kind of person that liked doing certain activities socially, like going to the movies or to a restaurant. It just felt weird going by myself. Then I realized, I'm not going to stop my fun just because no one wants to go, so I started going to traditionally social places by myself and enjoyed it anyway. No point feeling lonely. Sure it sucks right now because of the pandemic, but if I want to do someting and there's no one to do it with, so what? I'll do it anyway.