❤ Dating Advice For MaidenFans Thread ❤

Lol, by family I meant do you want kids? How many? Are we going to raise them in our religion(s) or let them decide later? Is it ok if I stop working to raise them, do you want to stop working to raise them? Etc.
 
This reminded me of a dumb joke I heard a hundred years ago.

A young man goes to his father: “Dad, I want a bicycle for my birthday.”
Father: “Can you reach your butt with your dick?”
Son: “No.”
Father: “Come back when you can.”
Next year the son goes to his father: “Dad, can I have a bicycle for my birthday this year?”
Father: “Can you reach your butt with your dick?”
Son: “Yes!”
Father: “Then go fuck yourself.”
 
Infinite Dreams said:
Here’s some dating advice, Night Prowler.

Go fuck yourself.

Have a nice day, fuckwit.
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So I had a coffee date yesterday. We met on a Metal board. We messaged a bit during work breaks and we agreed to meet at 10 am at a coffee shop. I didn't know what to expect, she would write in short, dry (could be seen as curt) messages, but she had agreed to meet. When she arrived we shook hands and ordered our drinks. I thought we would hang out for 2 hours at most. At one point she asked, "What time is it?" We looked at our phones.... 4 pm! We were both taken aback how time just flew by LOL. She said she was going to meet a friend at 7, she lived kinda far and made no sense for her to go home at this point, so if I wanted to walk around for a bit to kill time.
I finally walked her to her car around 6:30, we had a good bye hug, she said she had a really good time and we should get together soon.

Can't wait to see how I fuck this up hahahaha
 
I don't have anything going on for myself and not expect to, but I'm giving dating advices to a close friend lately. He was in an extra-marriage affair ridiculously powerful in the sex department and after many months the girl asked him to stop as she was starting to seriously suffer that they couldn't be together more (she was single). The out of this planet sexual experience they were sharing had transformed her to another person and had as a result to seriously fall in love, but there were too many painful time restrictions to bear.
Problem for both is that they share the same working environment so it's really difficult to forget each other after she decided to move on.
When that happened, my friend who was more in control he started to really suffering.

He had respected her decision, also following my advice where I explained him that she must had suffered for many months not having him fully, but after some time she started to play games with him in the work, feeding the fire but maintaining her position that they shouldn't have sex any more.

My friend was really suffering. He was calling me daily from 6 hours time zone away to vent his pain and sadness as I was one of the very few that knew about this.
Eventually I advised him to find another affair and fight fire with fire. Yesterday he called me and told me that mission accomplished, the way he described me what happened reminded me the first one, kind of sexually liberating but this time more in control.
I asked him if that had any effect on handling the pain and the games of the other one at work and he said yes, by a lot.

Problem is that this method is a vicious cycle and eventually he would have to find another one and another one and put his marriage in serious danger but this is the way it is. Marriage-keeping wise, it's way better to not taste the forbidden fruit in the first place, once you do, you may enter in a tornado of souls and I just realised the title and some of the lyrics of that beautiful song.
 
____no5 said:
Problem is that this method is a vicious cycle and eventually he would have to find another one and another one and put his marriage in serious danger but this is the way it is. Marriage-keeping wise, it's way better to not taste the forbidden fruit in the first place, once you do, you may enter in a tornado of souls and I just realised the title and some of the lyrics of that beautiful song.
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You took the words right out of my mouth. There are many reasons why someone might engage in extramarital affairs, I'm not one to judge. However, when one does decide to engage in one it usually suffers one of three fates, 1. it's a short affair, it ends, stay married. 2. longer affair, leave spouse for new partner or 3. lose them both and you stay alone.

Not knowing what exactly is going on in your friend's marriage for him to seek another affair rather than fix what is going on or if it's worth fixing. I've heard of marriages that are beyond fixing, but both partners agree to not get a divorce as it is not financially advantageous to either party.
 
Onhell said:
Not knowing what exactly is going on in your friend's marriage for him to seek another affair rather than fix what is going on or if it's worth fixing. I've heard of marriages that are beyond fixing, but both partners agree to not get a divorce as it is not financially advantageous to either party.
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In a nutshell, I think the passion is gone but there's lots of love and affection after 15 years. Also his affair is 20 years younger, so I don't think it would last in the long term. It was just a sexual thing but the highs and ecstasy were too high and they ended up fall in love and now suffer the consequences like cravings, obsession, mood swings, heartbreak, anxiety, emptiness etc. There's a lot of darkness in the passion, whereas love is more like something full of light.
 
____no5 said:
In a nutshell, I think the passion is gone but there's lots of love and affection after 15 years. Also his affair is 20 years younger, so I don't think it would last in the long term. It was just a sexual thing but the highs and ecstasy were too high and they ended up fall in love and now suffer the consequences like cravings, obsession, mood swings, heartbreak, anxiety, emptiness etc. There's a lot of darkness in the passion, whereas love is more like something full of light.
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Love is a powerful and dangerous drug
 
____no5 said:
cravings, obsession, mood swings, heartbreak, anxiety, emptiness etc. There's a lot of darkness in the passion, whereas love is more like something full of light.
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Frankly whenever I fall in love, passion category, it looks like being sick and abnormal with all the above symptoms no matter she has given in to me or not, I still have those “symptoms” only that in the case I don’t have her, it’s just a scale up more unbearable and desperate; a scale up, but pretty similar.
 
The good - and bad - news is that the older you get, the more things level off. The highs aren't as high but the lows aren't as low.
I'm not the man my wife married 23 years ago, and she's not the woman I married 23 years ago.
And that's just fine with both of us.
 
el diablo said:
The good - and bad - news is that the older you get, the more things level off. The highs aren't as high but the lows aren't as low.
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While this is generally true, there’s a kind of passion when a middle aged-to-old man or woman fells in love with a way much younger subject and it can turn pretty crazy and destructive.
My friend isn’t in that category but I’ve seen a couple of cases that they were and it’s scary.
 
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