Donner said:
I hate fade outs. They seem like a copout from bands who can't figure out how to end a song.
Sometimes, maybe. But figuring out an ending isn't hard. I've never met a musician who had a problem coming up with an ending. (A
good idea is another matter, but there's never a shortage of ideas.) I suspect that nearly all fadeouts are intentional choices with a purpose, and not a copout.
A fadeout, when used properly, is just another compositional tool. It's meant to imply that the fading-out bit would go on into infinity, if not for the confines of time and our mortal ears.
Think of Stargazer with an ending, instead of a fadeout. If that doesn't make you sad, nothing will.
The fadeout at the end of "Supper's Ready" by Genesis (their 23-minute epic, often considered their best song) is so integral to the song that Genesis performed it live that way. The only case I know of where the fadeout was played live. (Though I'm sure there are more, there can't be many.)
If you want to point to the thousands of pop songs that fade out, there's a point there too. Implant the hook in your memory. A fadeout is more likely to get a listener to continue hearing the music in their mind. (The well-known phenomenon: last song you heard on the radio is stuck in your head all day.) So it serves the purpose of pop music, which is selling records. And you may not like that purpose or that music, but it's silly to criticize a genre for fulfilling its purpose.