❤❤❤️‍❤ Dating Advice For MaidenFans Thread ❤️‍❤❤❤

Lampwick 43

Barstool Warrior
So first off, I will absolutely talk to Matt. My plan is to talk to him about everything that happened this coming Saturday, as I feel like it would be much better to have this conversation in person rather than through text.

don't treat Jessica like she's a commodity either of you can call dibs on.
Completely agreed. The whole concept of calling dibs on a person is ridiculous and demeaning, as if that person couldn't make up their own mind. However, in situations where a friend is really, really into someone, it would be a bit of a dick move to go ahead and hit on that person anyways. Or in cases involving an Ex of a friend, it's always good form to see if that friend is ok with it before going down that road. But at the end of the day, if someone just isn't into you, there's really nothing you can do about it.

The only thing to regret is the ntsw part, it should have happened, somewhere, somehow, but that night.
I see what you're saying, but I have no regrets at all that things didn't go further than they did that night. I would much rather be somewhere much more private for something like that.

If I had known that things would progress they way they did though, I would have chosen to go somewhere where we can be alone when we left the bar, whether that be going back to her place, getting a hotel room or something, or even taking an Uber all the way back to my place.

But still, I really don't have any regrets about missing out on taking things further.

Hell, she may have been asking about you while hanging out with Matt.
You know, you just might be on to something. I'm not going to say that she was asking about me, but looking back on things, I can actually recall a moment early on in the night when she was looking over at me and giving me a look like she wanted me to come over and talk to her, I was just too oblivious to really notice it at the time. But I do think she had at least some interest form the very beginning.

As for Jessica, don't lose her.
I really hope I don't. The fact that we hung out until 2pm the next day leads me to believe that there can be more there than just a hookup. I think I'll text her tomorrow and see if she wants to go out for dinner, or something like that, sometime soon.

Any of you can fuck on my couch anytime.
If I'm ever fortunate enough to find myself in your neck of the woods, I'll hold you to that!

an attractive stranger
Thanks for the compliment, Brigs! That's certainly a boost to the ego! :) :)
she probably went home disappointed.
...and it's gone. :( :(

:p

Anyways, I'll keep you all updated on any further developments.
 

Brigantium

General of the Dark Army
Staff member
I mean disappointed only in the sense that she well and truly made the first move and was pretty much turned down for sex. Old style social norms and gender expectations make that one hell of a kick in the teeth!

But in the interests of dream killing, don't take the 'attractive' comment as a compliment - I've never met you and don't have a clue about that :p

Still, I missed the bit about you getting her number. That's quite a big deal.
 

Niall Kielt

Ancient Mariner
I mean disappointed only in the sense that she well and truly made the first move and was pretty much turned down for sex. Old style social norms and gender expectations make that one hell of a kick in the teeth!
Mr Wick is a rare one, alright. Or maybe not. You mentioned earlier about guys being shit about condoms, well, I have some interesting statistics for you...

Of the last 6 women I've hooked up with, only one has demanded condoms. Personally, I demand and always carry them myself but those numbers suggest that maybe its time we all abandon our preconceived notions and gender expectations. Like, I mean, chicks be rampant, yo!
 

Brigantium

General of the Dark Army
Staff member
Well you're a responsible guy then - or else a social media influencer for Durex :D

Seriously, though, they're probably expecting a scene or to be booted out if they ask and you don't have any/don't want to use it. Again, mind you, I'm used to nightlife in 1990s Darlington and Sunderland, which mostly consisted of meat markets stalked by neanderthals, and hookups weren't advisable.
 

Niall Kielt

Ancient Mariner
Well you're a responsible guy then - or else a social media influencer for Durex :D

Seriously, though, they're probably expecting a scene or to be booted out if they ask and you don't have any/don't want to use it. Again, mind you, I'm used to nightlife in 1990s Darlington and Sunderland, which mostly consisted of meat markets stalked by neanderthals, and hookups weren't advisable.
Skyns is my brand, honey B)

Ack, Im not 100% responsible 100% of the time, its easy to get carried away sometimes but I'd certainly never pressure someone if no condoms were available. Thats a total dick move.

I also grew up in the toxic meat market style of world you mention so I know what you mean. Maybe it still is like that. Probably is.

You could be right re women expecting a scene, which is sad but understandable what with many, many guys being entitled pricks when it comes to sex.

That said, one of the women I was with said she hated condoms and would seriously reconsider if I insisted. So I went ahead. Then I got tested and promised myself to be a bit more cautious in future. So basically, my takeaway is that if you tangle with enough people you can flip any stereotype on its head :nana:
 

Brigantium

General of the Dark Army
Staff member
Yeah, I've known a few women who said it didn't feel right and they didn't like it :( One of them changed her mind after getting a mystery illness and freaking out that she might be HIV positive.

I guess some women in that scene don't particularly care about getting pregnant either, since that gives them a vocation in life. Plus they'd risk waiting around forever to find a partner to settle down and have kids with.

It just makes me very wary when there's that culture of johnnies are for chickens.
 

____no5

Free Man
That said, one of the women I was with said she hated condoms and would seriously reconsider if I insisted. So I went ahead. Then I got tested and promised myself to be a bit more cautious in future. So basically, my takeaway is that if you tangle with enough people you can flip any stereotype on its head

I only tested for HIV once, but I hit two birds with one stone. An unkown woman requested me a HIV-free certificate in order to proceed (as you do) and I already had in my bag hahahah a fresh HIV-free certificate from another woman that had requested me the same thing a few days earlier.

I used to be condom hater during my one night stand years. Then as I was becoming more of the monogamic type, condom started to symbolise the "forbidden" so I even liked it for a time.
 

Niall Kielt

Ancient Mariner
Yeah, I've known a few women who said it didn't feel right and they didn't like it :( One of them changed her mind after getting a mystery illness and freaking out that she might be HIV positive.

I guess some women in that scene don't particularly care about getting pregnant either, since that gives them a vocation in life. Plus they'd risk waiting around forever to find a partner to settle down and have kids with.

It just makes me very wary when there's that culture of johnnies are for chickens.
This woman already has 3 kids over 15 and was on the coil so pregnancy didn't seem a concern, to me.

Aye, thats it, sometimes knowledge isn't enough, it takes a wee personal scare to hammer it home, excuse the pun.
 

Niall Kielt

Ancient Mariner
I only tested for HIV once, but I hit two birds with one stone. An unkown woman requested me a HIV-free certificate in order to proceed (as you do) and I already had in my bag hahahah a fresh HIV-free certificate from another woman that had requested me the same thing a few days earlier.

I used to be condom hater during my one night stand years. Then as I was becoming more of the monogamic type, condom started to symbolise the "forbidden" so I even liked it for a time.
Rubbers used to be a real boner killer for me when I was younger but not now, for some reason. Viagra, probably :rocker:
 

Lampwick 43

Barstool Warrior
Anyways, I'll keep you all updated on any further developments.
So here are the updates:

I talked with Matt yesterday. There are no issues at all between us. In fact, there were never any issues in the first place. He's truly a great friend.

As for Jessica, things seem to be going quite well so far. We just hung out on Friday, she invited me back to her place, and I stayed the night. :)

Who knows if this will ultimately lead anywhere. Everything is all still very casual at the moment. I'm just going to do my best to live in the moment and enjoy the journey.
 

chaosapiant

Ancient Marinade
So here are the updates:

I talked with Matt yesterday. There are no issues at all between us. In fact, there were never any issues in the first place. He's truly a great friend.

As for Jessica, things seem to be going quite well so far. We just hung out on Friday, she invited me back to her place, and I stayed the night. :)

Who knows if this will ultimately lead anywhere. Everything is all still very casual at the moment. I'm just going to do my best to live in the moment and enjoy the journey.
Get a fake tattoo of her name and be like "you're the one!" You know...just for kicks! (don't do this)
 
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